Recently, I watched ‘A Beautiful Mind’ again and Dr. John Nash’s Nobel Prize acceptance speech is what hit me the most. He says,
“Thank you. I’ve always believed in numbers and the equations and logics that lead to reason.
But after a lifetime of such pursuits, I ask, What truly is logic? Who decides reason?
My quest has taken me through the physical, the metaphysical, the delusional – and back.
And I have made the most important discovery of my career, the most important discovery of my life: It is only in the mysterious equations of love that any logic or reasons can be found.
I’m only here tonight because of you. <addressing his wife, Alicia>
You are the reason I am. You are all my reasons. Thank you.”
I was taken aback by the fact that every movie, every story has love as an integral ingredient. It’s like saying that the human race is incomplete without love and every complete life is so, because of love. Love is what each and every one of us think, debate, ponder about. Love is what everyone is in pursuit of. Many of us have experienced love, many of us still yearn for it and maybe, many of us will never find it in this lifetime. This leads me to another observation, a lot of us are in love relationships and unsatisfied because of which you hear statements like “Love is overrated” or “There’s nothing called Love”. I could imagine love being overrated if it was the belief and notion of a particular generation, age or cult. But as Dr. Helen Fischer mentions, not one civilization has been found without it.
Fischer studies ‘romantic love’, has written several books about her research and has been a TED speaker. I’m posting one of her talks here (courtesy, TED.com). I would warn you to watch it at your own risk as it can really kill the mood that I set with Dr. John Nash’s speech which by the way, was fabricated as Dr. John Nash in reality, never gave a speech.
So that’s how love happens, through a dopamine shot. Love is like addiction as it stimulates the same areas of the brain that a cocaine addiction would affect. It is a brain system inbuilt in all of us for choosing mates. However, cut and dry that might sound, this is what the research suggests. So love’s reason might be simple – mating. But romantic love is long term for pro-genesis and taking care of the newborn.
Getting back from Dr. Fischer to Dr. Nash to all of us, love still remains a mystery in an absolutely brilliant way of planning or unplanning itself. Two individuals and circumstance is all that it needs. Give love these two ingredients and it will give you a series of events that you will cherish life-long.