Parenting can be daunting. Honestly, it is most definitely the toughest job in the world with so many people to advice and judge. It is confusing for the new parent to know what’s good for their baby and what’s not as all advice are made in good spirit. With so many forums and readily available google search, it has become all the more confusing and time-consuming to get a straight answer for your concern because all babies and parent needs are different. It is imperative to have an arsenal of some of the best parenting books for new parents and read them before the expected problem arises, so that you are better equipped to handle it. For example, read a book on starting solids for babies before the 6 month mark or the 4 month mark if you are planning to start solids earlier.
Here is a collection of the best parenting books for new parents that are must buy.
Best Parenting Books for New Parents
A mealtime book in the parenting section? Yes, mealtimes are very important is shaping a child. They can be very stressful for parents and for kids and are a foundation stone for your relationship with your child and parenting psychology. Think force feeding vs listening to your child’s cue about his/her hunger. My Child Won’t Eat is the one of the first and best parenting books for new parents. Read it as soon as you have a baby or just before you start solids.
Parents everywhere worry when their baby or toddler doesn’t seem to eat as much as they think he should. Carlos Gonzalez, a pediatrician and father, sets those fears to rest as he explores the reasons why a child refuses food, the pitfalls of growth charts, and the ways that growth and activity affect a child’s caloric needs. He discusses how eating problems start and how they can be avoided. My Child Won’t Eat includes mother’s stories of the anguish and torment they have gone through in trying to get their children to eat. Carlos Gonzalez reassures parents that children know how much they need to eat and explains why a parent’s only involvement should be providing healthy food choices. Forcing a child to eat more than he needs can only lead to tantrums, and eventually, possibly even obesity. Questions Carlos Gonzalez answers include:
- Why won’t my child eat?
- How much does a child need to eat?
- Why don’t children like vegetables?
- What does it mean to breastfeed on demand?
- When should my baby start to eat solid foods?
This is the best parenting book you must buy not only for diet concerns but also to raise a happy child free of obesity. If you have food allergy concerns, also read Why Won’t My Child Eat?!
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Discover the number one practical guide to family life.Parenting experts Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish provide effective step by step techniques to help you improve and enrich your relationships with your children. Learn how to:
- Break a pattern of arguments
- Cope with your child’s negative feelings
- Engage your child’s co-operation
- Set clear limits and still maintain goodwill
- Express your anger without being hurtful
- Resolve family conflicts peacefully
Dr. Alice Ginott, clinical psychologist and wife of the late Haim Ginott, and family relationship specialist Dr. H. Wallace Goddard usher this bestselling classic into the new century while retaining the book’s positive message and Haim Ginott’s warm, accessible voice. Based on the theory that parenting is a skill that can be learned, this indispensable handbook will show you how to:
- Discipline without threats, bribes, sarcasm, and punishment
- Criticize without demeaning, praise without judging, and express anger without hurting
- Acknowledge rather than argue with children’s feelings, perceptions, and opinions
- Respond so that children will learn to trust and develop self-confidence
This revolutionary book offered a straightforward prescription for empathetic yet disciplined child rearing and introduced new communication techniques that would change the way parents spoke with, and listened to, their children. Dr. Ginott’s innovative approach to parenting has influenced an entire generation of experts in the field, and now his methods can work for you, too.
This book really stands out from this list of best parenting books for new parents especially in the Indian scenario of the ‘Raja Beta’ syndrome. We all complain about Indian men like it is a disease. And I’m of the opinion that accepting the fact that something is going wrong with Indian boys is the first step. Raising a happy, loving, responsible boy in today’s world can be challenging. Steve Biddulph looks at the most important issues in a boy’s development from birth to manhood. With gentle humor and proven wisdom backed by decades as a family psychologist and father, he shows parents how to provide the firm, loving guidance that boys need. Updates include information on mitigating the dangerous effects of online pornography, male specific hearing problems, and teen driving on boys. Biddulph also discusses:
- The three stages of boyhood, and how to help them go smoothly.
- Testosterone! How it changes behavior and what to do about it.
- How boys’ brain development differs from girls’.
- How to help boys cultivate a caring attitude toward sex.
- The impact of competitive sports on boys, and how to ensure it stays positive.
- Questions to assist in finding boy-friendly schools.
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It gender specific parenting book is a must read for mothers and fathers of young girls in this list of best parenting books for new parents. It deals with different problems and issues that young girls face everyday and how to address them. The book aims to help parents to raise warm, loving and strong girls in our complex turbulent fast changing world. Raising Girls is both fierce and tender in its mission to help girls more at every age. It’s a book for parents who love their daughters deeply, whether they are newborns, teenagers, young women or anywhere in between. Feeling secure, becoming an explorer, getting along with others, finding her soul and becoming a woman at last, there is a clear map of girl’s minds that accepts no limitations, narrow roles or selling-out of your daughter’s potential or uniqueness. All the hazards are sign posted bullying, eating disorders, body image and depression, social media harms and helps as are concrete and simple measures for both moms and dads to help prevent their daughters from becoming victims. Parenthood is restored to an exciting journey, not one worry after another as it’s so often portrayed. Steve talks to the world’s leading voices on girl’s needs and makes their ideas clear and simple, adding his own humour and experience through stories that you will never forget.
Also read The Complete Secrets of Happy Children by the same author.
Written for parents to help their kids make the most of their talents and to help parents make the most of their own talents so they can be truly effective mothers and fathers. Includes access codes for two strengths assessments: one for parents and one for children. How can you discover your children’s unique talents? And how can you use your own talents and strengths to be the most effective and supportive parent possible? Strengths Based Parenting addresses these and other questions on parents’ minds. But unlike many parenting books, Strengths Based Parenting focuses on identifying and understanding what your children are naturally good at and where they thrive not on their weaknesses. The book also helps you uncover your own innate talents and effectively apply them to your individual parenting style. This is a unique must read from this list of best parenting books for new parents.
Highlighting the fascinating link between a child’s neurological development and the way a parent reacts to misbehavior, No-Drama Discipline provides an effective, compassionate road map for dealing with tantrums, tensions, and tears—without causing a scene. Defining the true meaning of the “d” word (to instruct, not to shout or reprimand), the authors explain how to reach your child, redirect emotions, and turn a meltdown into an opportunity for growth. By doing so, the cycle of negative behavior (and punishment) is essentially brought to a halt, as problem solving becomes a win/win situation.
Complete with candid stories and playful illustrations that bring the authors’ suggestions to life, No-Drama Discipline shows you how to work with your child’s developing mind, peacefully resolve conflicts, and inspire happiness and strengthen resilience in everyone in the family.
What’s the single most important thing you can do during pregnancy? What does watching TV do to a child’s brain? What’s the best way to handle temper tantrums? Scientists know. In his New York Times bestseller Brain Rules, Dr. John Medina showed us how our brains really work and why we ought to redesign our workplaces and schools. Now, in Brain Rules for Baby, he shares what the latest science says about how to raise smart and happy children from zero to five. This book is destined to revolutionize parenting. Just one of the surprises: The best way to get your children into the college of their choice? Teach them impulse control. Brain Rules for Baby bridges the gap between what scientists know and what parents practice. Through fascinating and funny stories, Medina, a developmental molecular biologist and dad, unravels how a child’s brain develops and what you can do to optimize it. You will view your children and how to raise them in a whole new light.
One of the best parenting books for moms in the Indian scenario by Dr Tanu Shree who writes in a simple and relatable style, citing examples from her life as a mom and the real life incidents with her sons. Don’t buy this book if you are looking for a pedantic tone with a holier than thou attitude from the author, who, with a stick in her hand and a finger pointed at you, will tell you how to be a good parent. This book is for the all the harried moms who are doing great, but have doubts about what they do (after all doubts are a part and parcel of being a mom, isn’t it?). It becomes almost like an inner voice telling moms to ‘Keep Calm and Mommy on’.
Why character, confidence, and curiosity are more important to your child’s success than academic results. The New York Times bestseller. This is another one of best parenting books for fans of Oliver James or Steve Biddulph’s Raising Boys, Raising Girls, and The Complete Secrets of Happy Children. In a world where academic success can seem all-important in deciding our children’s success in adult life, Paul Tough sees things very differently. Instead of fixating on grades and exams, he argues that we, as parents, should be paying more attention to our children’s characters. Inner resilience, a sense of curiosity, the hidden power of confidence – these are the most important things we can teach our children, because it is these qualities that will enable them to live happy, fulfilled and successful lives. In this personal, thought-provoking and timely book, Paul Tough offers a clarion call to parents who are seeking to unlock their child’s true potential – and ensure they really succeed.
This is the best parenting book in today’s busier, faster society. With too much stuff, too many choices, and too little time, children can become anxious, have trouble with friends and school, or even be diagnosed with behavioral problems. Now internationally renowned family consultant Kim John Payne helps parents reclaim for their children the space and freedom that all kids need for their attention to deepen and their individuality to flourish. Simplicity Parenting offers inspiration, ideas, and a blueprint for change.
- Streamline your home environment. Reduce the amount of toys, books, and clutter—as well as the lights, sounds, and general sensory overload.
- Establish rhythms and rituals. Discover ways to ease daily tensions, create battle-free mealtimes and bedtime, and tell if your child is overwhelmed.
- Schedule a break in the schedule. Establish intervals of calm and connection in your child’s daily torrent of constant doing.
- Scale back on media and parental involvement. Manage your children’s screen time to limit the endless deluge of information and stimulation.
These are the best parenting books for new parents that you must start buying as soon as you have a baby. Reading and modelling the concepts in your mind as per your and your baby’s needs will go a long way in shaping your relationship with your infant and your toddler and beyond.