Reasoning Love


Recently, I watched ‘A Beautiful Mind’ again and Dr. John Nash’s Nobel Prize acceptance speech is what hit me the most. He says,

Thank you. I’ve always believed in numbers and the equations and logics that lead to reason.

But after a lifetime of such pursuits, I ask, What truly is logic? Who decides reason?

My quest has taken me through the physical, the metaphysical, the delusional – and back.

And I have made the most important discovery of my career, the most important discovery of my life: It is only in the mysterious equations of love that any logic or reasons can be found.

I’m only here tonight because of you. <addressing his wife, Alicia>

You are the reason I am. You are all my reasons. Thank you.”

I was taken aback by the fact that every movie, every story has love as an integral ingredient. It’s like saying that the human race is incomplete without love and every complete life is so, because of love. Love is what each and every one of us think, debate, ponder about. Love is what everyone is in pursuit of. Many of us have experienced love, many of us still yearn for it and maybe, many of us will never find it in this lifetime. This leads me to another observation, a lot of us are in love relationships and unsatisfied because of which you hear statements like “Love is overrated” or “There’s nothing called Love”. I could imagine love being overrated if it was the belief and notion of a particular generation, age or cult. But as Dr. Helen Fischer mentions, not one civilization has been found without it.

Fischer studies ‘romantic love’, has written several books about her research and has been a TED speaker. I’m posting one of her talks here (courtesy, I would warn you to watch it at your own risk as it can really kill the mood that I set with Dr. John Nash’s speech which by the way, was fabricated as Dr. John Nash in reality, never gave a speech.

So that’s how love happens, through a dopamine shot. Love is like addiction as it stimulates the same areas of the brain that a cocaine addiction would affect. It is a brain system inbuilt in all of us for choosing mates. However, cut and dry that might sound, this is what the research suggests. So love’s reason might be simple – mating. But romantic love is long term for pro-genesis and taking care of the newborn.

Getting back from Dr. Fischer to Dr. Nash to all of us, love still remains a mystery in an absolutely brilliant way of planning or unplanning itself. Two individuals and circumstance is all that it needs. Give love these two ingredients and it will give you a series of events that you will cherish life-long.

Shivani GargReasoning Love

Comments 6

  1. rohit khaitan

    these are both excellent videos, and in my opinion are one of the issue of love: romatic something very primal and basic to the human mind, is a search for an appropriate long term mating partner, and the desire for that evolves from base of the reptilian brain..a permanent partner serves the need for taking care the newborn hence ensuring proper caring and nurturing of the next link of the human chain, without which we could cease to exist within one generation and might need to learn how to create fire everytime a new generation takes birth…howsoever mundane to some the grand experience of love a technical depcription of this nature might appear to reduce it some it might even occur as distateful by apparently reducing a divine or cosmic experience of romantice love to just chemicals..we could also take solace in the belief that if God created us all and also created our senses so that we could sense the world and the creator, so this experience of love is also a cosmic design, a part of our sensory world and the chemicals are the tools God uses for his ends. So that would make love DIVINE!!

  2. Anonymous

    i guess love is after all a primal need and embedded. the mating game is what love is all about after all.

  3. Shivani Garg

    Yeah, it is all about taking the generation forward. A sweet and stupid game crafted by the God and guess what? We keep figuring it out and still don't get it because we're not wired to. You know, he loves human beings and their prayers (reminds me of 'Clash of the Titans') so he never gave us that answer and made us believe that if there's something that's divine, it's love!

  4. Sumit Kain

    Quite a perspective! Guess, most of us do live in denial. Love is indeed said to be overrated and delusional when it is neither. An eye opener for me.

  5. Sumit Kain

    As I said, "we Live in denial". Therefore, its like being jolted out of a forced dream that we put ourselves to. Dr.Helen Fischer has an admirer in me, now! 😀

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